The new top Republican will say a sentence, then repeat the same sentence again backwards just to drive home a point? “The problem we have is huge! We have a huge problem!”
That is how I feel about this past weekends women’s 2017 March for Life, it was the opposition march of the 2017 Women’s March, yet held the same meaning.
Hear me out.
Both women’s marches were just opposite sides of the same coin. Both sets of marchers agree that abortion is a terrible awful thing. All women agree that abortions are a problem, we just disagree on how to solve the problem.
Women, we need to honor the fact that we all agree it’s a problem. That’s a huge victory. Americans don’t all agree that global warming or landmass shrinkage is a problem, despite scientific facts. We don’t agree on lots of things. But we all agree that abortion isn’t something any woman wants to go through, so let’s work together to find a solution.
No woman wakes up one day and thinks, “Yipee, I get to have an abortion! This is gonna be awesome!” No, for the women I’ve spoken to that have had them, it has been an emotional and gut-wrenching decision. Abortions leave emotional scars that don’t heal, especially ones who had to have it for medical reasons, not because they didn’t want the baby.
So instead of saying people they are pro-life or pro-choice, we all really need to say we’re pro-living. Here’s how we can change the problems, and the first step is changing people’s mindset. Here are 10 important things that affect the abortion rate.
- First of all, I have to point out that the abortion rate is the absolute lowest since 1973, so it is odd that women are protesting abortion at this moment in history. They should be marching to celebrate that it’s the lowest it has ever been, it means at the US is doing something right. The fact that the abortion rate is the lowest it’s ever been, yet people are marching to protest it this year, makes it seem like a political issue rather than a personal issue. Some people reading this may argue that it is personal for them, and I believe you. But if you step back and look at the big picture, it is a political issue right now. I only hear people nationally talking about abortions during presidential election years.
- A new study suggest that the low abortion rate is low due to contraceptives and access to healthcare. So if you define yourself as being “pro-life” you need to also be pro-Obamacare and pro-Planned Parenthood.
- Planned Parenthood: Only 3% of the funding goes to abortions. That means 97% of the funding goes to helping people have or keep their babies. NINETY-SEVEN PERCENT!!! But if this 3 percent bothers you, maybe set a separate place that does abortions, and it can be a non-profit, maybe not government funded. Just an idea I’m throwing out there.
- I have to point out that unemployment rate is the lowest it’s ever been. It’ s less scary to bring a child into the world if you know you will have enough money to feed a child, clothe a child and pay for childcare.
- The US has no mandatory paid maternity leave. ZERO paid days after giving birth. This is completely unheard of for a developed country. According to the Pew Research center, out of 41 developed countries the US is the only one that gives ZERO days. In Germany maternity leave means your employer will hold your job for you for 3 years after each birth.
- The US has one of the highest maternal death rates of any developed country, according to the New York Times.
- The division of wealth in this country is out of balance. Not only do men make a lot more than women, but the gap in salaries from middle class to top earners is astronomically out of proportion. The average American makes $39K to $50K per year to support their family, yet some people like Bill Gates make over $11 billion per year to support their family.
If you break down the median income for women, $39,ooo, after taxes, per month you’re looking at around $1,900. That’s not including health insurance and 401K that will be taken out, which is at least $200 bucks. So BEST case scenario, the average American single mom would be looking at around $56 per day to pay for groceries, place to live, transportation, insurance for a car, food, diapers and baby gear. But you forgot, she will most likely have to somehow pay for childcare out of that, too.
- Public perception for pregnancy has to change. In 2017, there is still shaming in communities when a woman gets pregnant out of wedlock. (White communities especially.) If you live in a community where this happens, you need to be outspoken and accepting of single pregnant moms. Also there is shame to ask for or accept assistance, be it federal government or community. And in the US it’s considered taboo for women to breastfeed. Oddly enough, public perception is it’s considered bad to feed a baby the milk nature intended him or her to have. So naturally, here is yet another link to show you how the US Ranks Last for Breastfeeding support. If you are truly “pro-life” there needs to be more compassion for women BY WOMEN both during pregnancy and as a new mom. You can’t shame and blame and yet claim to be for life.
- Sex Education is another reason the abortion numbers have dropped. You have to have sex education. You just do. Whether you think kids should be having babies or not, you need to talk to them about it. I didn’t have my first child until my 30’s and I was reading baby books and thinking, “Wow, I did not know that!” Kids should be educated on how their bodies work, and if they end up pregnant, how that’s going to play out. It’s just good information to have. Pregnancy isn’t the only concern for sexually active people, life threatening STD’s are important for people to know about, too.
- And the icky topic I have to save for last or else no one would have read this far. The problem that no one wants to talk about because it’s disgusting and if you speak it or read it you have to actually think about it. Rape and incest. It still happens. Every day. Every 98 seconds someone is sexually assaulted in America. 321,500 times per year. And they are not all women victims. This is the real issue we should be marching about! The Atlantic is bold enough to go there with an article titled “America Has An Incest Problem.” This is the issue we should be in the streets screaming at our elected officials about. If there were tougher rape laws, there would be fewer abortions. Full stop. If you are pro-life, you need to be calling your senators every day and demand tougher rape laws.
In 2016 there was a wake-up call to America, both men and women. I feel like everyone heard about the Brock Turner case, but here’s a refresher on the implications of it. In 2016, Brock Turner was caught in the act of raping a woman behind a trash dumpster. He tried to run off, but two eye-witnesses held him until the police got there. The woman was unconscious. It went to trial, he basically got off. He served 2 months instead of 14 years because he was a white college student and a swimmer at Stanford. The judge on the case was a former white swimmer at Stanford. The whole story is just one giant example of how broken the system is. If a man who was caught in the act of sexual assault and detained until police got there gets off, what hope is there for person who get assaulted without eye witnesses? And how was the obviously biased judge was even on this case? The judge’s personal history shows that he would naturally have a bias towards the defendant, even before the first argument is made in the courtroom. This news story taught America two very eerie lessons: 1. If you’re raped, even if it’s a slam dunk case, you accuser will probably get off while the entire trial is spent demoralizing you and showing every aspect of your personal life looking for flaws in you not the accuser 2. The case taught college men that they can rape women and get away with it.
So pro-lifers and pro-choicers, we need to get on the same page and stop being manipulated by political parties. We need to stop identifying ourselves by our political parties and start identifying ourselves by our species. We are all human. Find some compassion and middle ground to work together.
One thing that struck me as odd with the march this past weekend was that Mike Pence and KellyAnne Conway spoke at the March for Life. It makes it look like the new administration created their own march just because they are still hung up on the reports talking about the small inauguration size vs. the original women’s march.
For the women marching, it is a real issue and an important issue. But for the people speaking at the march it is just another political hot button issue that they want front and center to drive home 2 points. One point is to rally their base and create more divide in America. (No one loves a rally more than our new president.) And the other point of the march was to give the perception that Trump has supporters too. And it’s a little odd and misguided, as some of the women marching don’t support trump, but just are pro-birth.
It happened with George Bush, it happend with Obama. Issues like this are a smoke screen to keep people occupied while politicians do other things. Politicians want men and women wrapped around issues like this, so they aren’t paying attention to the things that politicians are getting away with that they probably shouldn’t. Be smart enough to recognize that this issue is a distraction and they all do it, whether Democrat or Republican.
Ladies, not only do we have men dividing us, we have women dividing us. Trump advisor KellyAnne Conway said this:
“I frankly didn’t see the point. I mean you have a day after [President Trump] is uplifting and unifying, and you have folks here being on a diatribe where I think they could have requested a dialogue. Nobody called me and said, ‘Hey, could we have a dialogue?'” Conway told ABC News’ George Stephanopoulos on “This Week” on Sunday.
Then a week later she spoke at her own women’s march. See how we are being manipulated? (And I won’t get side-tracked on the fact that Trump’s inauguration speech that he allegedly wrote himself was far from “uplifting and unifying” as the words people not on his staff used to describe it were: startlingly angry, grim, dark and radical.)
So if you are truly passionate about women’s issues and not just political hot button topics, reach out to your elected officials to address the 10 problems above, because we need to solve those first.
Although people are still squabbling over crowd size, the numbers are important, because the Women’s March was largest protest in American history and the March for Life was a massive event as well.
2nd March for Life: I’m having trouble finding firm numbers, so feel free to google this, but it looks like 500-600K.
But either way, we’re looking at close to 4 million Americans who are extremely passionate about women’s issues. That is the number of people if both marches joined forces. FOUR MILLION women who are willing to get out in the rain and snow and 19 degrees and march because they are fired up. And I think we can all agree that is a yyyugge impressive bigly number. That number is fantastic. Fantastic is that number!
And there are 157 million women in the US! Ladies, we are the majority in this nation! Why isn’t that represented in DC? Why is the senate a boy’s club? Why is the House of Representatives a huge sausage fest? Find a cool, smart lady, take her out to lunch, tell her to run for office, then support her. Life, we’re in it together.
If the majority leaders of the country were female, we would never sit around in a room and make decisions about a man’s penis. You would never see a room full of women standing around the oval office signing bills about whether or not it’s okay for a man to have a vasectomy. We wouldn’t want to do it, and wouldn’t presume to do it. We would assume it’s a man’s choice. Women, let’s get on the same page and make decisions together about our lives, our bodies and our children. Don’t let politicians manipulate and divide us. Don’t let them distract from the big problems we need to tackle…. together!